Your social life: down to zero!
This article will give you practical tips for a great social life in your new social life abroad.
Getting a new social life is -for many people- goal number 1 when they move abroad.
Your social life will change dramatically, actually right from the moment you decide to live abroad.
In your home country, before the move, you will be busy arranging the move.
You will have less time for social activities.
In the new country, you simply don’t know anybody, your social life will go down to zero….
All of a sudden, you see it as your new task to expand your social life, for you (and your hard-working partner).
you have to build up a healthy and lively new social network.
What happens to your social life when you move abroad
A lively and safe social network turned into a chaotic or non-existing social network.
You now have to deal with settling in, unpack boxes, finding your way around.
Taking care of your children and partner will be your main focus for some time.
In multiple ways, your help is needed, which will cost you a lot of time and energy.
In the meantime, you have to start growing your social network.
What can you do?
- introduce yourself to your new neighbors
- find interesting groups (on- and offline)
- do volunteer work
- search for a job
- offer your helping hands at your children’s’ school
- go back to school yourself
- pick up a hobby, with others
- step out of your comfort zone.
A new social life for you!
First, let me explain ‘step out your comfort zone’.
This sounds logical, but in fact, it’s really hard to do so.
My friends know schoolyards are really difficult for me.
Too many people and their emotions at the same time.
So much energy bundled up in a relatively small spot.
The energy of both the children, teachers, and parents.
I tend to avoid schoolyards, I just don’t like it.
Staying a bit longer in the schoolyard to me is stepping out of my comfort zone.
And I did face many of those moments because I have learned that the schoolyard is an easy way to connect with new people.
A way to build on my new social life while living abroad.
You might recognize the schoolyard setting and the uncomfortable feeling you get there.
Others will experience other challenges.
Maybe you think you are the only one that feels shy in the new place.
Instead, if you think twice and if you are honest with yourself, you know you are not.
By the time I realized we are all in the same boat, I stepped out of my comfort zone and spend some time hanging around the schoolyard.
I’ve made new friendships there, in the end, it helped me to build up a new network.
I was able to grow my social life by stepping out of my comfort zone.
What about your comfort zone?
What is your comfort zone look like, and what is outside that zone?
Can you define what is difficult for you?
More importantly, are you aware of the benefits of stepping out of your comfort zone?
Are you able to let go, step out of your comfort zone and just go for it?
I am curious to hear about your experiences and learnings.
Great if you want to share your story.
I wish you a great new social life in your new setting!
Do you want more inspiration?
Read my other blogs for example about living a happy life abroad.