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Live a meaningful life abroad!


Hey Expat Partner,

Expat Partner Career Coach Heidi wants you to live a meaningful life.

So you can flourish in your own unique way!

Give your life a boost and start today if you don't feel satisfied.

You can start with the free download on top of this page.

It is filled with questions, it makes you think about your current life.

It can be the start of a change in your daily routines.

You can also read my blogs about living a life abroad. 

Expat Life

Expat life can be really nice and stressful at the same time.

Especially when you are the partner of the working International.

Many Expat Partners have to stop working when they cross borders.

Some like it, but many Expat Partners want to return to their job, at some point.

The fact that your own career is on hold for a while, is frustrating for many Expat Partners. 

You are at the right place if you are living abroad, and you want to live a meaningful life again.

Let me listen to your story so I can help you in the best possible way.

Connect with me if you want a free 15-minute call to find out what you need.

A career for all Expat Partners?

To become a happy Expat Partner, having a career is not always the solution.

Some Expat Partners just want to take care of their families, that is fine too!

After all, you have to feel satisfied and happy with your choices in life.

If you feel you need to change something:

Expat Partner Career coach Heidi will help you with your:

  • Job search

  • Networking in the Netherlands

  • LinkedIn profile

  • CV

  • Cultural challenges

  • Starting your own business, big or small

  • Educational Advice

  • Your next step in your career

Sukanya Krishnan on LinkedIn:

I interacted with Expat Partner career coach Heidi, to plan about my career in the Netherlands.

Until I met Heidi, I was almost convinced that homemaker takes the most out of me and I can never go back to work which I used to enjoy more.  Thanks to her guidance, motivation, inspiration, and support.

She really changed my view and within few weeks I became confident that I can go back if I want to, and also whenever I want to. She was very informative and energetic during our calls and ensured that my CV and LinkedIn profile are updated with most recent information. She also ensured that my profile looked professional, suitable and

at the same time attractive for my job hunt in the Netherlands.

The outcome of all her sincere and dedicated efforts is my current job, which I am most happy about!

But for Heidi, I would not have achieved it at all. She is a good mentor and guide for an expat partner, and provides the correct input! I strongly recommend her as the career coach for expat partners.

43 rules for a smooth repatriation

Geschreven door Heidi Los

A smooth repatriation, that’s what you need!

We all have to face it sooner or later: repatriation is part of Expat life!  Above all we want the repatriation to be as smooth as possible, right?  I have made a list of 43 rules for a smooth repatriation, so feel free to learn from it!

Repatriation, it’s not the easiest move.  Some say it is the move with the biggest impact of all.  And the most difficult one.  As a family we have repatriated twice and I know it can be the hard one!  You don’t know how repatriation will be for you, until you actually move back to your home country. 

This list will be crucial to know at some point in your Expat life.   The following rules kept me on track, all of them helped me get through this hard period in my Expat life.  I managed to do it, so do you!  That’s why I want to share this with you!  Browse through the list if you can enjoy Expat life (a bit) longer, highlight the rules which can be helpful in your daily life abroad.  I know some will!  Remember this list when your time to repatriate knocked on your door!  

The first 10 rules for a smooth repatriation

A smooth repatriation

  1. You will see yourself as a tourist in your own country
  2. You will experience multiple awkward feelings over and over again. Don’t be afraid, you will get used to it!
  3. Act like your home country is a new country on your list
  4. Study your own country
  5. Read more about local foods
  6. Take care for yourself
  7. Find yourself the best place to live
  8. Go out and find new friends
  9. Learn more about the climate
  10. Don’t be surprised to find your country changed: a lot of things will be changed

Keep on reading for the next 10 rules if you want a smooth repatriation

  1. Make a list of all things you think have been changed over the years you lived abroad. Your friends will find that interesting. This way you’ll have something to talk about which your friends will listen to
  2. Think about what you will do when you re-enter your home country
  3. Grief is not bad, but don’t soak in it: Move on!
  4. Do not go back all the time; it’s time to explore new things in life. New exciting places to discover. Remember your children are new to this country. Teach them all about it!
  5. You will miss the expat blues every now and then
  6. Again, you will be the one who is responsible for the family and the management of the household
  7. You have to cope with sassy stories of your Expat friends
  8. You will feel confused when your friends and family pull you into their lives (multiple obligations will be shown in your calendar) or don’t do that at all
  9. Be aware of your breathing
  10. Be aware of the gap your children will have on multiple levels, especially in the language. Help them by teaching them to just ask if they don’t understand words

The following rules are also important to know

  1. LIVE in the NOW, otherwise you will never be satisfied again
  2. Do not compare openly. You can compare but keep it for yourself. Give yourself a smile, breathe in and move on
  3. Do sports
  4. You will hear yourself talk about your life abroad over and over again. STOP IT as soon as you hear yourself chat about all the things you’ve discovered abroad. Only talk about it when people ask you. Find a way for yourself to keep memories alive, but don’t bother your friends with it. Tell your kids to do this, too
  5. Master the art of questioning. Learn to ask questions. That will bring you more in life than just telling others – they will NOT understand you – at all!
  6. NEVER FORGET that other people will experience your country as super exciting and great
  7. Keep abroad celebrations alive for you and your family, not necessarily by celebrating it big but just add something in your house that will keep up good memories.
  8. Have confidence
  9. Drink water
  10. Relax and make your home home as soon as you arrive. Your life will take place here (and now)

If you really want to repatriate smooth, just read the next 13 

  1. Comfort yourself with nice things you brought from abroad
  2. Start traveling your own country as if you will leave soon. Show your children your country from multiple a-smooth-repatriation-by-dyof-2perspectives
  3. Embrace all the countries you’ve lived in
  4. You have third culture kids. That’s a gift for life. Keep that in mind when they have hard times
  5. Reentry is part of living abroad. Face it
  6. If you’ve been abroad for a long time or for a short time, things have changed
  7. Have walks in nature
  8. If you’ve been abroad for a long time or for a short time, you have changed
  9. You were yourself abroad and you will be and have to be yourself while you repatriate
  10. You are responsible for your life, back there and here as well
  11. It’s possible that people approach you as if you’ve never been gone, like nothing happened and you haven’t developed at all
  12. You survived abroad, so you can do this, too!
  13. Know that you will be missed enormously; keep in contact with your friends abroad, wherever they live!

Feel free to add more rules in the comments. I would be very pleased! And it would be wonderful if you would like to share your experience, we can all learn from your experience. Just add your comments below.  There is no story the same! 

Follow me on FACEBOOK: DYOF, read more about me and my experience here. You can always email me on heidi@designyour-ownfuture.com if you have an urgent question!


If you hear about an Expat family moving back home, and you want them to have a smooth repatriation, feel free to share this blog with them. They are so busy, they don’t have the time to search the internet for tips and tricks. If you drop this blog in their mailbox they will be very happy to receive this. 

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